Saturday, September 6, 2008
The Law of Attraction in Action!
When I first opened myself to the possiblity that my thoughts, actions, and expectations had a direct impact on what I would attract into my life, I wanted to believe it, but truth be told I didn't really think it was possible. But time and again I have proven myself wrong...and in the last year I have come to trust that not only do we have the power to attract the type of energy we want, but also that the Universe will enhance that energy by bringing people and circumstances to reinforce those intentions.

If you have read any of my other blog entries, you already know that I have had some amazing experiences attracting positive energy into my life...Iwanted to share my latest confirmation of how the energy of my thoughts and desires continues to manifest into reality...

Although life has been going well and I have been feeling very fulfilled in my personal life, and in the work that I am doing, I've felt as though I had hit a plateau with my healing and was ready for the next step. And so once or twice in the last week I added to my nightly Gratitude Prayer: "Thank you God for guiding me to the people, places and things that I need to find to take me to the next level of healing." I then let it go because I've come to trust that when the time is right all I need to know and do will be there...

Last week I completed updates to Heal With Hope (if you want to be added to the Update list you can email me: andrea@healwithhope.com) and sent out the update notification. I included a friend, Charlene, an amazing cranio-sacral therapist that became a very special friend of mine, but who I normally contact through my personal email account. I wanted to know if she had any photos of herself performing cranio-sacral as I was interested in adding some photos to the article on the website to help people better understand what it is all about. Because I had never contacted her through the web email before, I typed in her address from memory.

I received a reply a day or two later, but found it a bit odd - Charlene is normally so warm and loving in her notes and this reply was very impersonal and to the point...she said, "no, I don't have any photos but feel that the article on the site is incomplete". I was surprised as she had never said anything like that before, but I thought perhaps she was busy and didn't have the time to add much more to her note. We corresponded several times on the subject - I invited her to write an addition to the article so it was complete...she agreed, but each note continued to be very impersonal and stuck only to the subject at hand. The last note I received from her was about to solve the "mystery" as to why Charlene did not seem herself. The last line of her most recent email asked, "would you remind me how and where we met." I knew something was not right - I mean this was Charlene...someone I had shared very personal experiences with, who was such a good friend, and I knew that unless she was losing her mind, that she would know who I was!!!

Well, as you've probably guessed by now, I had been sending emails to the wrong person...yes her name is similar (Char instead of Charlene) and their email addresses are exactly the same except one uses aol.com, the other earthlink.com...

Here's the part that I love best - both are cranio-sacral therapists, and the "new" Char takes cranio to another level, which she is going to write about and share on HWH in the future. She also uses a program called Resourcing that sounds very interesting and is something that I think may be helpful to me personally, and perhaps will be of interest to those who visit HWH - I will keep you posted about this!!

Think about it - I am looking for new ideas for healing, and the Universe guides me to a person who has some new perspectives on healing that seem to fit my needs!! Do you think it was an accident that I messed up the email addresses?? I sure don't - what are the chances that you mess up an address and then reach someone who has information you are looking for???!!!

I have also received an email from someone who "found the site by accident" and who has offered me some great ideas about healing. Check out Jo Davidson's wonderful site: http://www.zentertainment.org/. Jo, who is working her way through some challenging health issues, has created a great site - Zentertainment Talk Radio - to share information to help others heal. I think you will love her site...and I am sure you will agree it was no "accident" that she found HWH!! (She also suggested a site to me that sells vibrational remedies for healing purposes...I haven't looked into it yet, but perhaps it's another suggestion the Universe has sent for me to explore?!? Check it out if you are interesed: http://www.healerswhoshare.com/).

In addition to asking for guidance on healing, I have also been working hard on updating the site and began to wonder if all the time and effort I spend on it is worth it - am I really helping people?? Well, the Universe decided it was time to remind me why I do what I do - I have received several emails in the last few days letting me know that information on the site proved helpful...and I hadn't received any emails like this in quite a while!!

So if you want great things to come your way, maybe it's time to choose to believe it is as simple as this: be willing to think positive, believe that everything is possible, and ask God to lead you to what you need and want...though make sure instead of "asking" you give thanks for it right up front - let Divine Power know that you believe it is coming, and you just might find that it will!! ~Andrea :-)


Thursday, August 28, 2008
Finding calm in the storm...
It has been a wild and crazy couple of weeks...my life has been wonderfully full as I spend 8-10 hours each day working on my book, updating and revising the website, and my creative juices were flowing with more ideas than I could possibly handle right now. All was going along smoothly as the healing work I have done was helping me to be stronger than I had in a very long time, and I focused on incorporating all of the spiritual lessons I have learned to help keep me grounded and in a good place.

And then came the crash...my brand new fabulous computer crashed. Within the course of a few minutes all of the hard work - the book, the website, the personal projects I had been working on were seemingly gone. I had spent about 6 hours earlier that day working on rewrites to my book...I was having a hard time finding the right words and the day's progress was slow, and finally I thought I had worked through all of the kinks...and suddenly it was very possible that it was all gone.

It took several days, but I eventually discovered that a repair was possible and that not all of the data would be lost...what a relief!! Then the next day we were presented with a new challenge - our air conditioner decided that it had outlived it's life expectancy, and was ready to head to air conditioner heaven.

Now most of you don't know me - don't know that I am not what one might consider to be "good in an emergency." I freely admit that I have been prone to panic and am a bit excitable and overly empathethic...

Well that was then, and this is now. I'm not saying I didn't have a moment or two, but 99.9% of the time I discovered that not only do I preach to others about living in the moment and anticipating positive end results in every situation, but I now find that I actually live in that place myself. When the computer crashed I was concerned, but was also able to stay present in the moment and realize that there wasn't much I could do other than to focus on and hold on to the knowing that it would all work out and that whatever needed to happen would, and that it would all end exactly the way it was intended to. Same with the air conditioner...I consciously made the choice to think of all of the people who had it worse than me - those who were without power from Tropical Storm Fay - so not only were they also hot, but they had no refrigerator, no lights, and some had to evacuate their homes because of flooding. I also choose to know that everything would fall into place and be ok...and that is exactly what happened.

I find more and more how easy it is to fall into that place of peace in the moment...to connect with my inner guide that tells me that everything is going to be ok, all is happening in the exact way it was intended. It took a long time to get to this place - it is easy to be "positive" when things are going well...the true test comes when things take a bad turn. I know the "bad turn" could have been much worse...but I also know that whatever comes my way I will not project and look for the worst...I will work at aligning myself with positive expectation...and I have no doubt that everything will be ok. As I said to a friend the other day, I no longer expect there will never be storms in my life...I just now know that it is possible to find peace within every storm. ~ Andrea :-)
Friday, August 15, 2008
Old friends are the best friends...
You've probably heard the quote, "some people come into your life for a reason, some for a season, and others for a lifetime..." I love this, because it really is true - you meet someone, have a real connection with them, but within a short period of time, for one reason or another, they are gone from your life...probably because the reason they were there has now been resolved, and it is time for both of you to move on. Then there are those people that you think are gone from your life forever, but for some reason you continually find your paths crossing again and again.

I've recently reconnected with an old business associate who I always liked and admired on a personal as well as professional level, and it feels as though it had been weeks, not years since we'd last been in touch. Today I had the chance to speak to another business acquaintance who I always had fond feelings for, and again I felt as though it could not possibly have been 10 years since we had spoken...

What is it about some people that the connection is always in place?? No matter how long it has been since you have seen or spoken to them, there is a special bond that allows you to fall back into conversation and reconnect with ease?? This brings to mind a very special friend - a gal I've known for over 25 years...Janet and I met in the supermarket when our boys were about 6 months old and became fast friends. I moved away 20 years ago, and have only seen her once in all that time...and yet when we make our annual phone call to one another during the holidays we are on the phone for hours and it truly feels like no time at all had passed...

One of my oldest and dearest friends, Sue (pictured here with my husband), and I have a relationship like that. We can go for months, even years, without being in touch...and then we see each other or get on the phone and it feels like we had just spoken the week before.

What a wonderful gift it is to not only be blessed with the people who are close to you in your daily life, but also to have those special connections to those who you may not see or hear from often, but to whom you always and forever feel a bond with. I give great thanks to God for the blessing of being reconnected with so many amazing people...what an incredible gift!!
~ Andrea :-)
Friday, August 8, 2008
If you needed proof...
Several years ago I first heard Dr. Wayne Dyer speak about the transformative power of our thoughts - his message that "when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" really resonated with me. And so I began my journey of learning how to use this to change the circumstances of my life.

I studied the wisdom of spiritual teachers like Dr. Dyer and developed my own exercises and techniques that enhanced my ability to refocus my thinking and to "retrain my brain"(watch for information about my new book that outlines all of these methods). I began to notice positive changes and so I shared this newfound approach with family and friends. Most were already used to my "far-out" ideas and would just smile, but as they saw my life improve, they began to listen a bit more and some even began to change their lives by changing their thinking too!

Let's face it though, part of the human experience is to doubt and to question, and this belief was no different. I knew that how I directed my thoughts absolutely did have an impact on what I was attracting into my life, but there are always those little nagging doubts, I wondered about the limitations of this power to really change things. But if I ever had any doubt before, I can tell you after this recent experience I don't any longer:

I recently wrote a book and have been in the process of having copies created at a local office supply shop (Staples). Because of the unique nature of the book I was creating an acutal mock-up of what I want the book to look like so publishers would be able to grasp the entire concept of what I am trying to achieve. This process required printing the pages, having them cut to size, printing and laminating the cover, then having it all bound.

The first few copies were perfect - and all went well. But the next day I received a call that they were having problems with the laminating machine and couldn't get it to work right. This was particularly upsetting as I had promised to send the book out that day to someone who was trying to help me get it published, so it was really important to get a good copy completed. I went over to Staples and saw for myself just how bad the cover looked - and it was awful!

The two gals working at the copy center had come to know me and understood how important this project was, and had made over a half dozen attempts to provide at least one good cover. I knew we had to get this done somehow and so thought it was a perfect time to put the power of positive thinking and gratitude into practice. I told them that we were going to work together to attract positive energy to this situation and get the laminator to do what we needed it to do. They had both gotten to know me quite well the last few weeks and just smiled and gave me that "let's just humor her" look I've seen many times before.

I asked everyone to take a deep breath, and then we set an intention that the laminator was going to begin to work perfectly (I said the words, they just smiled and rolled their eyes!), but they did nod in agreement! I then went over to the machine, put my hand on it, and said: "Thank you laminator for creating 3 perfect book covers for me - I need to get this project done and thank you for your cooperation." I then spent a moment visualizing the machine at work and the end result being 3 perfect covers.

They were reluctant to give it another try as they had tried so many times unsuccessfully, but I knew the cover would be perfect this time, and so they agreed to try one more time...

I have to be honest and admit that when the laminator put out three perfect covers I was delighted, and a little relieved - I believe in the power of being able to shift energy by shifiting our thoughts, but this was a machine after all, and I was surrounded by people who didn't really believe it possible. I must say both gals were amazed and the seeds have been planted - they now know that they hold the power to change circumstances that are seemingly impossible to change.

This story gets even better because the next day the exact same thing happened, though it was with a different employee, but the end result was the same! They couldn't get the machine to laminate properly, I came and changed the energy of the situation, and we were able to get the job done!!

Last night when I dropped off 3 more books to be put together I decided to try setting the right energy before leaving the store, rather than have to go back and fix it later...so I went over to the laminator, thanked it for the perfect job I knew it was going to do on the book covers - and left. When I went back to pick up the books, Trisha, the gal who had been there the first time this all happened, was delighted though a bit surprised that she had 3 perfect books ready for me!!

Now I realize that to some this is going to sound crazy - even impossible. Believe me, I completely understand...but I also tell you with 100% certainty that "if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at can change!" Just ask the staff at the Staples copy center! ~ Andrea :-)
Thursday, July 31, 2008
A Frog in the Toilet...
One of the great things about age is that you have had time to learn to roll with the punches, and are less and less surprised by the unpredictablity of the unexpected events life can throw your way. I have found that just when I think I have everything figured out, something will usually occur to remind me that I really don't...and I have come to accept the fact that maybe I never will have it all figured out. Because I have learned that life is a process - an evolution -that provides continuous challenge so that we never stop growing, stretching, and learning.

I was recently reminded that that life is always full of surprises...sometimes when we least expect it:

It was a typical evening for me - I watched a little tv, spent some time on the computer, and did a little reading...and before I knew it, it was time to get ready for bed. I am a creature of habit and my nighttime routine is second nature, so I rarely pay attention to what I am doing as I wash up and get ready to get to sleep...but on this particular night I am grateful that my inner voice was on alert and that I was paying attention to it, because for some reason I paused to look down before sitting on the toilet.

And I am so very, very thankful that I did!! Because as I glanced down into the toilet I saw a huge frog sitting on some tissues I had thrown in there earlier!!!! Now I am not talking a toad here - not one of those cute things I used to try to catch as a kid - I mean a full grown, BIG frog!!!! I am sure if you happen to live within a 10 mile radius of my home you probably heard my screams...my husband who is used to me screaming every time I see a bug knew this was not my typical scream and came running. As he entered the bathroom he told me to calm down and stop exaggerating because surely the huge frog I began describing was probably not very large at all. Well, he was in for a huge surprise himself!! He was as shocked as I when he saw this huge frog just sitting there, looking like he was right at home.

After a bit of a chase he was able to catch the frog and put it back outside where he belonged. The only regret we both had after that happened is that we didn't think to snap a picture, as I know that no one would be able to capture that moment was to have a photo of it. The next question was how on earth did that frog get into the toilet in the first place!! We called the city water department to check our pipes for a break through which the frog could have gotten in, but they found nothing amiss. My husband checked vents and anything else he could think of and came up with nothing.

As many of you know, I'm never able to tell a story without attaching some kind of moral to it...so I've decided that perhaps my visitor was actually God's way of reminding me that life is full of surprises - some good, some not - and no matter how prepared you think you might be, don't forget that life is an unexpected journey and we are just along for the ride - so enjoy it, bumps, bruises, and unexpected guests all!!!! ~ Andrea :-)
Friday, July 25, 2008
A promise kept...
When my father passed away 5 years ago my sister and I wondered how long Mom could survive, her heart broken at the loss of her soulmate and partner of 52 years. It was hard to imagine her being able to go on without him...he was her rock and she relied on him so very much. But Mom surprised us all - although her heart was heavy she did her best to go on. It wasn't easy, but her strong will and determination helped her to take slow, small steps forward.

Within a year or two we began to notice a decline, both physcial and mental. There were subtle changes at first, but in time we were told that her early stage dementia had progressed and she would need to be moved to a facility specializing in memory care. After an exhaustive search we were blessed to find a wonderful home for her - a loving, caring environment where she was surrounded by kind and compassionate people. Although her mental and physical health continued to decline, Mom throughly enjoyed her new home and the great people she lived with.

Although my family was very close-knit, I never had a particularly close relationship with my mother...we were very different people who didn't share many common interests. Years ago my mother stayed with us while my Dad was away, and she seemed to not be herself. I remember her evenutally confessing that she was concerned that one day when my father was gone she was worried about what would happen to her. I assured her that I would always be there for her, and promised should the day ever come that I would take good care of her.

And so I kept my promise...I visited her frequently, took her on outings until she was no longer able. Then our visits were just time spent together - sitting outside enjoying the sun, watching the clouds float by, listening to the birds chirp...and chatting about the things we both loved most - our family and friends. She always perked up when I would visit and so I knew that even though she couldn't say so, she always knew who I was.

This last year she didn't speak very much and so I did most of the talking...and she became a very good listener. I came to know her body language - she didn't need to say a word but I could tell when she was tired, hungry, or in pain. We would sit quietly side-by-side, just grateful for this time together as we both knew these days wouldn't last forever.

One of the best days we ever spent together was a few months ago when I brought along the manuscript for a book I had just completed to show her, and then decided to try reading it to her. I would stop frequently to see if I was tiring her out, but she would indicate she wanted me to continue, and so I did until I had read her the entire book. When I was finished she gave me one of her rare smiles and nodded when I asked her if she liked it. Even now the memory of that day fills my heart with great joy.

The next few months were difficult for both of us - Mom was suffering and watching her decline was so very hard. I did my best to brighten her day - visiting more often so she never felt alone...and reminding her that I understood she was struggling and would do everything I could to ease her burden. Although words never passed between us, I could feel her gratitude and love - and this gave me the strength to continue.

Last week things took a bad turn and Mom could no longer get out of bed. I was sitting with her when she looked over at me and smiled, then closed her eyes for what would I thought would be a brief rest. Sadly, it was the last time she would open her eyes...and two days later she was gone.

I have learned so much the last five years - about my mother, and about myself. I now know we were both much more alike than I had ever realized...we were both much stronger than either of us had imagined...and that from love and trust a special bond could grow that not even death would be able to break. Though Mom is gone, I take great comfort knowing that she is at peace, and that we journeyed together through some very difficult times...and despite all the obstacles, we found our way to one another. God bless you Mom - I pray your spirit is eternally blessed with peace and love. Yours forever, Andrea xoxo
Friday, July 18, 2008
My Greatest Teachers...
I have been blessed by many incredible teachers who have had such a positive influence in my life. From my 7th grade teacher who was the first person to make me feel as though I was capable of so much more, to my father whose unconditional love taught me to believe that I could do or be anything...to more recent spiritual teachers like Wayne Dyer and Eckhart Tolle, whose wisdom has inspired me to stretch and do the unimaginable.

I have achieved many goals the last few years because of the inspiration of the people I have mentioned above. But none of what I have accomplished would have been possible without one very special teacher, Evelyn Dufner. Evelyn, aka My Computer Angel, has guided me, pushed me, encouraged me...and most of all turned my many visions into reality.

Evelyn is one of those quiet people whose influence you don't realize until you step back and look at how much you have learned and grown from her guidance and instruction. She is a pretty amazing person - one of those talented people who wears many hats...she's a computer instructor, web designer, business administrator and classroom teacher, not to mention a mother, wife, and daughter. She seems to glide effortlessly from one to the other, always bringing with her an encouraging smile and a large dose of enthusiasm.

I know how blessed I am to have Evelyn in my life as I am sure there are few people who could put up with my sometimes demanding and impatient personality. I work so hard to evolve to be a patient, kind, and calm spirit, but let's just say I am still a work-in-progress!

Without Evelyn Heal With Hope would not be the beautiful website that it is, and the book I just completed would not be as special. So as I remember all of the great teachers who have impacted my life in so many wonderful ways, I want to give thanks to Evelyn for being such a wonderful teacher and friend. ~ Andrea :-)
Thursday, July 10, 2008
My Best Friend...
If you believe, as I do, that there are no coincidences, you will understand how the timing of Hailee coming into my life was not an accident. Five years ago I was struggling with my health, my dad was very ill, and we were getting ready to move to a new home. Right around this time my son, who had been living on his own, had to move back home for a short time and brought Hailee, his new puppy, with him.

There was a lot going on and I was not thrilled about having a puppy in the house, but after spending just a few minutes with her, I was in love. She was not only adorable, but she had such a loving and fun spirit you couldn't help but be happy in her company. Within a few weeks I let my son know that he was welcome to leave at any time, but the dog was staying...at that point Hailee and I had become inseparable and I couldn't imagine my life without her.

Hailee was always full of energy and enjoyed going out for long walks. And as a puppy she needed to be taken out quite often. This was all at a time when my energy level was extremely low and I could barely muster the energy to walk to the mailbox. Well Hailee didn't know anything about chronic fatigue or vertigo...she needed to get out several times a day, and since I was the only one at home during the day, I had to do it. It wasn't easy, and some days we couldn't go very far, but somehow I was able to push myself and take her out almost every day. And an amazing thing started to happen - slowly, but surely, my stamina began to improve. To this day I credit Hailee for forcing me to become more active, which I believe has been an important part of my healing.

Shortly after we moved my father died - this was a very difficult time as I was extremely close with my dad. No matter how down I was feeling, there was Hailee, at my side...providing comfort and love. And my mother, who was also devastated by the loss, was also comforted by Hailee's love and affection.

Through the years I've had ups and downs with my health, and Hailee has been there with me through it all...on the days I couldn't get out of bed, Hailee laid beside me, pressed up against me as if she were trying to pass along some of her energy to me. And to this day when I'm not feeling great, she is always there, snuggled up beside me. No matter how I feel or what I am doing, she is always there...at my side, providing her quiet comfort and support.

The last 51/2 years have been full of struggles and challenges, as well as joys and triumphs. And each and every experience was shared with my best friend and loyal companion, Hailee. She is 6 years old now and continues to be the greatest joy and blessing in our lives. She was at my side through the bad times, but also the good...she has been here as I devoted myself to creating the Heal With Hope website, and she has been right here as I spent the last year writing a book, which is now completed. And she is beside me right now as I write this blog entry.

We were never sure of Hailee's exact birthday, but believe she was born around this time of year...so Happy Birthday Hailee. Thank you for always being there...for making me laugh and licking away my tears...and most of all for your unconditional love. You are the best. xoxo
~ Andrea